Recently a friend shared with me how she felt bad over spending money on her home, she wasn’t sure whether considering how to make her home look pretty was an important use of her time. I sometimes feel that too, it feels selfish spending money on home decor when there are plenty of causes and charities where those funds could be spent. I get it, especially when those funds are limited and there are many needs out there. I call this home guilt.
It feels like a luxury to take the time to consider how furniture works in a room, you think it’s just a ‘first world problem’ when your sofa doesn’t match your decor. You feel like you spend too much time looking at items for the home and considering whether that tone of blue on a website matches the tone of blue in your cushions.
That is why I champion DIY and cheaper ways to get the look you want in your home, so that you can spend some of your money elsewhere. It’s why I love to charity shop and up-cycle and it’s why I will always champion the small artisan or the developing economies.
But it’s ok to want to have a home, a home that you enjoy being in and reflects your taste and style, and dare I say it – you spend money on, you know why? Because it doesn’t have to be about you. When you approach your home styling or design, if you make it about serving others, it becomes part of your purpose, your calling, your ministry. It might be your taste and style but it’s about making the space serve your family, your guests.
It’s up to you to set your budget, making sure you have the funds to do all the other things you need to do in your life, and give to others, but this is part of your purpose. When you make your space beautiful it is a gift to those who live there, to those you serve time or food to there. If you create a welcoming space where people feel at home, you are serving them. You are honouring them, you are helping them to live their lives, and to relax in your space.
It’s important that we are aware of how environment affects people. It’s good to consider how colours affect people’s moods, how to combine space, colour, placement and texture to make a home just, work, for those that live and visit there.
If you have children, you are creating a home where they are nurtured and grown. You are teaching them that it’s good and healthy to create. Effective home design shows them how organisation, cleanliness and tidiness are important life skills.
Let’s not be made to feel guilty for creating beauty and serving others with the gifts we’ve been given. Let’s celebrate what is good and do good: let’s work out a way that we can serve others and most especially those that don’t have homes, with the ones that we have. This is our community, it is what we make it.
It’s up to you how you serve your home to others.